Who Will Love Me For Me?


There are some songs that simply help us to transcend. They say the things that we think in our hearts and never quite know how to put to words. And then you hear it. The words, the melody and arrangement and it is as if someone has expressed for you what you were unable to express yourself.

I have been in conversation with two young leaders this past week. Both by all accounts seem to be confident, bold, and well-liked. Both are living with deep insecurities, afraid that if the world really knew them, rejection would follow. They are blind to the love God has for them and are working hard to feel worthy of just about anything. I can’t help but think of the dozens of leaders I have had similar conversations with over the years. I can’t help but think of the times I have felt this very same thing.

One week ago I was blessed to be at a youth group night with my friends with special needs. It was a night of looking to the new year, being excited about our theme from Eph. 5:1, Therefore be imitators of Christ as beloved children. That we night we decided imitation was the theme and we held a karaoke talent show to imitate our favorite artists and, well, just to laugh a lot. And then the tenor of the night changed in an instant. One young woman with obvious speech and cognitive disabilities sang along with a song by JJ Heller “What Love Really Means”.

This song is one of those songs that seems to express what so many are either afraid to say out loud or they have not yet found the words to explain the deep ache they live with every day. There is hope. And there is love waiting to be given. I included the lyrics to the chorus below. To see the full lyrics, click the link. Take a moment and be reminded there is someone who not only will love you but already does.

What Love Really Means (JJ Heller)


Who will love me for me
Not for what I have done
Or what I will become
Who will love me for me
‘Cause nobody has shown me what love
What love really means

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About Amy Jacober

Amy Jacober (PhD, Fuller Seminary) is a youth ministry veteran with ministry and teaching experience. She focuses on practical theology, urban ministry, theology & disability, and marginalized communities. She is a volunteer youth worker in her church and community, lead consultant with Youth Ministry Architects and serves on the Young Life Capernaum national board. In her free time she can be found playing with her three young children, husband, and oversized dog.